Your responsibility is to tune in to how lonely and heartbreaking it feels to you when your partner doesn't support you in doing what brings you joy, or in just being who you are. Your responsibility is to focus on taking loving care of your own inner child, who feels anxious and unloved when you abandon yourself to care-take your partner. By learning to take loving care of yourself in the face of your partner's controlling behavior, you not only heal your own anxiety; you become a role model of personal responsibility, which may help your partner learn to take loving care of himself or herself.
It is important to accept that no matter how loving you are to your partner or how much you give yourself up, your partner will become secure only when he/she learns to be loving to himself/herself.
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