It's key that they know they can come to you with their fears, questions, doubts and dilemmas, and that you will be there to help them find their way. Rather than imposing your way upon them, they need to feel your love and support for who they are, rather than who you think they should be.
You will end up with a far better relationship with your children if you learn how to make yourself happy and define your own worth, rather than making your children responsible for you. As adults, they will continue to want to spend time with you if you are your own person. However, if they feel obligated to be with you, they might resist.
If you are an enmeshed parent, do yourself and your children a huge favor and start learning to take responsibility for your own happiness and pain through your own Inner Bonding practice.
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