Do You Practice Enmeshed Parenting?

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Do You Practice Enmeshed Parenting? [EXPERT]
If you identify with one or more of these symptoms, you might be enmeshed with your children.

It's key that they know they can come to you with their fears, questions, doubts and dilemmas, and that you will be there to help them find their way. Rather than imposing your way upon them, they need to feel your love and support for who they are, rather than who you think they should be.

You will end up with a far better relationship with your children if you learn how to make yourself happy and define your own worth, rather than making your children responsible for you. As adults, they will continue to want to spend time with you if you are your own person.  However, if they feel obligated to be with you, they might resist.

If you are an enmeshed parent, do yourself and your children a huge favor and start learning to take responsibility for your own happiness and pain through your own Inner Bonding practice.

To begin learning how to love and connect with yourself, so that you can connect with your children and others, take advantage of our free Inner Bonding eCourse and receive Free Help with your parenting. Connect with Margaret on Facebook.

This article was originally published at Inner Bonding . Reprinted with permission.
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Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is a best-selling author of 8 books, relationship expert, and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® process - featured on Oprah, and recommended by actress Lindsay Wagner and singer Alanis Morissette. Are you are ready to heal your pain and discover your joy? Take our FREE Inner Bonding course, and click here for a FREE CD/DVD relationship offer. Visit our website at innerbonding.com for more articles and help, as well as our Facebook Page. Phone and Skype sessions available. Join the thousands we have already helped and visit us now!

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