There is a fine line between loving behavior and care-taking behavior.
No, it is not a fine line at all. There is not a fine line between the intent to control and the intent to be loving to yourself and others. The confusion comes in because the action may be exactly the same. For example, you might make dinner for your partner for the pure joy of giving, or you might make dinner to get approval or avoid disapproval. While the action of making dinner is the same, the energy of it is totally different because the intent is totally different. Food made with love even tastes different than food made out of fear, guilt or obligation.
When you give from your ego wounded self with the intent to control, you will eventually end up feeling resentful and used. When you give from your loving adult self with the intent to share your love, you will feel filled in the giving, regardless of how the other person responds.
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This article was originally published at Inner Bonding . Reprinted with permission from the author.