The Fine Line Between Love and Care-Taking

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The Fine Line Between Love and Care-Taking
There is a fine line between loving behavior and care-taking behavior.

Care-Giving

Care-giving is a particular form of loving behavior. You are care-giving when you are giving to another what that person needs and cannot do for himself or herself. When you are care-giving, sometimes you do things even though you don't feel like doing them, because you love or care about the other person's well-being. An example of care-giving is taking care of children, even when you have to get up in the middle of the night and don't want to. You are care-giving when you take care of an old person or a sick person — doing for them what they cannot do for themselves.

Sometimes care-giving gives you joy, and other times it is difficult, but it never has an agenda attached. You are being kind because it makes you feel good to be kind — not because you are trying to get something back from the other person.

Often clients will say to me, "Isn't there a fine line between caring and caretaking?" Keep reading...

 

This article was originally published at Inner Bonding . Reprinted with permission.
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