“Am I Lovable?” – Heal Shame Now!

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“Am I Lovable?” – Heal Shame Now!
Do you try to get love & approval in order to feel good about yourself? This is a hard way to live!

Now, after spending many years ignoring your true self and acting as if your wounded self is who you are, you might have forgotten what your real self is truly like, Your true self can never be defined through the eyes of your wounded self. In order to learn to love yourself, and to define your own worth, you need to learn to connect with your higher self – your inner wise self. This happens easily when your intention is to learn to love yourself, rather than to control how others feel about you. The intention to learn to love yourself opens your mind and heart to the truth of who you are.

Elvis Presley is a good example of someone who didn’t know himself. In a recent book called “Conversations With the King,” by David Stanley and David Gruder, we learn that Elvis constantly asked David Stanley, his stepbrother, “Who am I?” David lived with Elvis from the age of four until Elvis died. According to David, Elvis was a very spiritual man with powerful spiritual gifts, but he didn’t know how to connect with his source of love and truth. Without this connection, he could not define himself, and kept turning to David and others, frequently asking, “Who am I?” Not knowing who he was eventually led him to avoid his pain with drugs – and to his early death.

Why not take back the power to learn to love and define yourself, rather than making others responsible for this? Through taking responsibility for your wellbeing in this way, you will fill yourself with so much love, and will receive great joy in sharing your love with others – rather than always trying to get love. You CAN move beyond emotional dependency into emotional freedom!

To begin learning how to love and connect with yourself so that you can connect with your partner and others, take advantage of our free Inner Bonding eCourse, receive Free Help, and take our 12-Week eCourse, “The Intimate Relationship Toolbox” – the first two weeks are free! 

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Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is a best-selling author of 8 books, relationship expert, and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® process - featured on Oprah, and recommended by actress Lindsay Wagner and singer Alanis Morissette. Are you are ready to heal your pain and discover your joy? Take our FREE Inner Bonding course, and click here for a FREE CD/DVD relationship offer. Visit our website at innerbonding.com for more articles and help, as well as our Facebook Page. Phone and Skype sessions available. Join the thousands we have already helped and visit us now!

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