Am I in a Healthy Relationship?

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Am I in a Healthy Relationship?
Are you wondering if you are in a healthy relationship or what constitutes a healthy relationship?

So what does a healthy relationship mean to you?

A healthy relationship is one where: (you might want to mark the ones that for you constitute a healthy relationship)

 

  • We can talk about anything without fear of the other's anger or withdrawal.
  • We support each other in doing what makes each of us happy.
  • We each take responsibility for our own feelings and are able to share love, rather than expecting the other to fill us up with love.
  • We laugh easily together and have a lot of fun with each other.
  •  We have similar interests and enjoy much companionship.
  • We each contribute financially.
  • We each contribute with household responsibilities and/or childcare.
  • We find each other endlessly interesting and always look forward to spending time together talking and sharing ideas.
  • We have deep trust, respect, and admiration for each other.
  • We have a wonderful sex life.
  • We are both very affectionate and love to hold, cuddle, and kiss.
  • We share common spiritual values.
  • We have the same religion.
  • Other - add your own.

We each have the right to decide what is most important to us in a relationship. If you find that you are not in a healthy relationship, don't despair! By doing your own Inner Bonding work, there is a good possibility that you CAN heal your relationship.

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