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Are You Too Exhausted to be with Your Partner?

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If women are to flourish and lead we need to get our energy back so we may live with love.

"Having it All" and "Lean IN", are the new hot ticket buzz words these days coming from Sheryl Sandberg's, Facebook’s COO, latest book Lean In.

In my view Sandberg gives us some insightful observations and misses some fundamentals. Is her manifesto for Liberation creating Liberation or Burnout? I say: I fear she is leading us to Burnout.

What is (she) missing?: Self-Care, Burnout Prevention, Breadwinner-Caretaker Balance. Whatever we call it they provide a foundation for energy, wisdom, wonder, well-being, creativity and freedom. We all know that when we build anything, if the foundation is not solid, the building can’t be either. The same is true for the lives we lead.

So many of us mistakenly believe that a Self-Care/Burnout Prevention program will be just one more large drain on our time and energy—one more set of demands to put on the “To Do” list. But true self-care, living a life you love is actually 180-degrees the opposite.

Here are three exercises to begin:

  • Shut off all technological devices and sit quietly for five minutes every day.
  • Do something you consider play “just for you” for at least fifteen minutes per day.
  • Ask yourself: what really matters. Make a list of the things you love to do that give you energy.

I feel so passionate about Burnout Prevent and the possibilities that women now have in this world that I’m offering a 5 week videoconference webinar called Burnout Prevention: Live a Life with Love. For more information and to register go here.

You are invited to our free introductory workshop.

I am an executive coach, licensed psychologist and professional speaker.  Using a non-formulaic approach I meet you and customize our work to meet your particular needs and goals. I have spent years training in various approaches to burnout prevention, as well as developing empowering authenticity and true confidence. We draw from the latest and most empowering tools including: how to use the best of neuroscience to upgrade your balance and burnout prevention; how to improvise, be in the moment and think on your feet; how to connect with your whole self so you flow with what’s in front of you, listen and respond from an empowered place . . . As a psychologist I help you reveal and move through any obstacles that might block you from being the extraordinary woman your are. My years of training took a lot of time and money. Working with me will bring you the best of what I learned in a far shorter time.

Take time to have the energy to connect with yourself, and your partner.

Take time to create your life.


Lynda

Lynda Klau, Ph.D.
Founder & Director
Life Unlimited: The Center for Human Development
www.drlyndaklau.com
life-unlimited-blog.com


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