Ultimately, there is one word that connects all the essential ingredients of happy and healthy relationships, and that is communication. Communication not only has to do with your internal communication with your Self, but also with your lover. As the saying goes, “It takes two to tango!” Remember that even when you are not communicating, you are communicating something. You cannot not communicate. Everything you do or don’t do in a relationship sends a message! So why not first establish a relationship with your Self to figure out what you are feeling, thinking, experiencing, dreaming, and needing for you? A healthy relationship starts with you. In being the mindful of you, you have the best chance of turning negatives in a relationship into positives and making love last!
Dr. Lisa C. Palmer, PhD, LMFT, CHT is a licensed marriage and family therapist; certified in hypnotherapy; and trained in mediation. She is best-known for her work helping individuals rapidly reduce their symptoms from eating disorders, trauma, addiction, and relationship concerns, and transform their lives. Dr. Palmer also does peak performance coaching for athletes and performers. She is the Director of Programs at The Renew Center of Florida in Boca Raton, Florida, and is a regular contributing expert for television and media. www.TheRenewCenter.com and www.AskDrPalmer.com
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