Thanks Anyway, Jerry Maguire!

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Thanks Anyway, Jerry Maguire!
Did he have you at hello or does your love run a little deeper?

If one day you wake up and realize that you feel neither conscious nor whole, it’s not too late! Start today by owning your own emotions, taking responsibility for yourself, not allowing yourself to be treated like or act like a victim, to use anger responsibly and not as a weapon. Teach your children to be whole but imperfect themselves. Life and love are so much more fun that way. Who wants to have to take care of our own consciousness as well as those around us? If after reading this you are tempted to tell your partner that they are neither whole nor conscious, let me suggest that that’s a bad idea. Take responsibility for yourself, you are the only one you can control anyway.

After that initial amazing adrenaline buzz of love, isn’t the best kind of love one that is reliable, kind, compassionate, and growing? Where two people love their individual realities that become even better when they are with the other person? A relationship that can tolerate tough times, periodic separation, and the demands of external forces without collapsing is the one that will stand the test of time. Isn’t the most romantic love the one that doesn’t need high priced roses and syrupy cards one day a year but true compatibility and half-priced roses every other day of the year?

So thanks anyway Jerry Maguire. It turns out you didn’t have me at, “Hello.”

This article was originally published at . Reprinted with permission.
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Dr. Lisa Kaplin

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Dr. Lisa J. Kaplin is a life coach and psychologist you can reach her at:

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Location: Chicago, IL
Credentials: CPC, ELI-MP, MS, PsyD
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