5 Tips For A Drama-Free Divorce

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Why not make your divorce as pain-free as possible?

4. More importantly, don't "dis" yourself at all for any reason. Owning your role in your marital problems is one thing, criticizing and belittling yourself is another and not at all useful. If you find yourself thinking that he stopped loving you due to your appearance, your age, your income, your cooking ability or anything else you can think of, stop it! Stop it right now. What good could possibly come from beating on yourself? If you can't stop, it's time to get yourself some help

5. Use this time to soul search ... not to feel sorry for yourself. Get to know you again or for the very first time. Who are you? What do you love to do? What are you good at and what type of person are you most attracted to? It's time to not only like but to love yourself first.

A divorce can be a sad time but it can also be the greatest gift you will ever receive. Try to find the joy in life and move forward. "you won't regret it. A whole new world of adventure awaits you why wait to find it?

Lisa Kaplin is a life coach and a psychologist at www.smartwomeninspiredlives.com

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Dr. Lisa J. Kaplin is a life coach and psychologist you can reach her at:

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