3 Skills Your Children Should Have Before They Leave Home [EXPERT

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3 Skills Your Children Should Have Before They Leave Home [EXPERT
Streets smarts are just as important as book smarts when children leave home.

These skills have been priceless in my work as a professional speaker, life coach, wife and mother. Don't send your children out into the world without having learned to answer to others, most especially difficult others. 

3. The chance to do menial work. When I worked at Wendy's I had to do everything from clean the bathrooms to cleaning out the Frosty machines. Many of my responsibilities were rather unpleasant and I dreaded them yet I have no fear of them now and I'm rarely worried about getting my hands dirty in any situation.

Too many of today's brilliant college graduates seem to feel many jobs are beneath them. That's a mistake in that the ability to lead requires knowledge and empathy of the responsibilities of others. When I see young people making fun of janitors or fast food workers, I'm pretty sure mom and dad haven't asked them to do much either in their home or outside of the home. If you want your child to be aware of the world, it's inhabitants and the jobs many of them do, send them out into that world to help out. 

Good grades and athletic ability are important but they aren't everything and they are certainly no guarantee of a financially or emotionally successful life. Give your children the gift of good communication skills, adaptability, compassion and empathy. These will help them get farther in life while also feeling better about themselves than most anything else you can give them.

Lisa Kaplin is a psychologist and life coach at www.smartwomeninspiredlives.com

You can reach her at Lisa@smartwomeninspiredlives.com

 

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Dr. Lisa Kaplin

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Dr. Lisa J. Kaplin is a life coach and psychologist you can reach her at:

www.smartwomeninspiredlives.com

 

Location: Chicago, IL
Credentials: CPC, ELI-MP, MS, PsyD
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