Being generous involves being giving of yourself but also being accepting of what's given to you. Be sure to show appreciation, even when gifts and acknowledgment are hard for you to receive. When it comes to the natural give and take in a relationship, it's important not to keep score. Being generous isn't just a moral issue but a mental health principle that has been proven to make people feel good, whether or not they get anything tangible in return.
Developing our capacity to be consistently loving is the greatest challenge to long-term relationships. Yet, the simple act of being loving can be the greatest foundation for a strong union. When relationships get complicated, and couples are at a loss for the convoluted reasons things have steered off course, it is sound advice for them to lay down their arms and start fresh. Think about the ways to apply the above principles, and enjoy the precious joys of loving and being loved.
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