Expert Blog Compelling advice, stories, and thought-provoking perspectives straight from YourTango's lineup of Experts to you

You Are A Manifesting Queen! That's Awesome! Except ...

You Are A Manifesting Queen! That's Awesome! Except ...
Love, Self

Have you been using a "Manifest Mindset" towards love? Find out How to be a Manifesting QUEEN!

When I was single, I remember getting together with my single-and-hating-it girlfriends one night to do a “vision party”. We cut out magazines and inspirational words of our ideal lives with our soulmates to put into a vision binder. This was over 14 years ago, way before the movie The Secret came out and the “Law of Attraction” became such a common phrase. We spoke blessings over our visions. We drank wine. We cried. We laughed. And even saged our visions, lit candles, burned incense. We were going to manifest our soulmates, dammit!

I looked over my vision binder several times a week, I created a 12 page soulmate manifesting list, I had a love altar in my home. I journaled. I prayed. I did affirmations up the wazoo.

And I was excited. I went through all the motions that I was “supposed” to do and I was sure that that was all that I needed to do and poof! magically soon he would appear.

Only it wasn’t happening.

What WAS happening was that I was getting more and more frustrated by the day, by the week and by the month, wondering where the f&!k was he?!? I mean, hadn’t I done EVERYTHING I was supposed to do to make it happen?

But then, I met a man. A nice man. A sweet man who I fell in love with. Only to find out he wasn’t the one for me. I was heartbroken and devastated. At this point, I vowed to DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT. I didn’t know exactly what that meant at that time, but I made a decision to get some help in this area of attracting love.

And it turned out that that moment, that decision, is what made all the difference. That was the turning point for me on my soulmate journey.

That’s when things started to get really interesting and magical.

Within just a few days of that decision, I met a Love Coach. Yep, coaching as a profession was just starting to gain some popularity in those days and while there were dozens of business and life coaches that I was meeting, I had never met or even heard of a Love Coach! So I took that as a sign that my decision was heard by God, and so I started working with her right away and invested lots of time, energy and money in workshops, courses, books, and personal growth… and not that much time later, I met Johnny.

What I learned from that experience was that just doing “manifesting” wasn’t gonna cut it. It was a very important and good start, for sure! I really got that it was the DECISION to do it differently that made all the difference in finally having a different and way better result than ever before.

You see, the #2 Biggest Love Blocking Belief is:

With my “Manifest Mindset” I have all I need, and my soulmate will simply show up.

Now, let me be very clear here. Doing all of these “manifesting things” is really a great start, a good beginning. I am NOT against it! But there must be MORE than that. And that’s where the learning, from coaching, workshops, and telecourses that love experts like Johnny and I offer comes in.

You create a beautiful foundation of manifesting power, and add it to a mentor who can help you overcome your specific fears, doubts and worries (about men, relationships, dating, love…all that) and who will help you see through your blindspots… now THAT is magical!

I remember when my Love Coach helped me see that I was the common denominator in all of my failed relationships, and that it was who I was BEING that had me attracting those guys that simply were not a match for me.

It’s not that I had to BE anyone else. I simply had to learn how to BE my best version of myself… and that would be enough… and would be attractive to the RIGHT man for me! Cool, huh?

In this culture, we have all been conditioned to think certain things about ourselves, about men and about relationships that simply do NOT serve your highest vision for your life and your love life. It’s simply not your fault if you haven’t found your guy yet! You’ve essentially been brainwashed (like most of us) to have mediocre or just “okay” relationships! In order to have an extraordinary relationship, you’re going to have to do something that the masses are not doing; you’re going to have to do something DIFFERENT.

So, use your “Manifest Mindset” as the beautiful base of your commitment to learn more about yourself, about relationships, and about how to be magnetic to not just your soulmate, but magnetic to the life of your dreams! (Hint: as you increase your magnetism to your soulmate, the rest of your life just gets better and better!)

So, have you been using a Manifest Mindset towards love? Are you willing to use that as your springboard to more learning and personal growth? Please comment below. I’d love to hear from you HERE on the blog and I’ll do my best to respond to every comment.

Until next week…

P.S.: Thousands of women LOVE this article! If you haven’t read my article “All the good men are NOT Taken! I can prove it.” Come on over to my blog and check it out. Hundreds have shared it, feel free to share it with your bestie, hopefully she’ll dig it too. Hundreds have liked it and shared it on facebook, if you like it, can you like it and share it?

P.P.S.: Quality Men teaching YOU exactly what’s going through their minds when they search for their soul mate? It’s true and you can have front row seats for FREE! Join us as we interview amazing real men and discover what they are looking for in relationships so you can get your love life on track now. Click here for the free video series now, while it lasts.

Author

Contributor

Explore YourTango