The Martyr in the Mirror

I want to share something with you… something that’s difficult to share, yet it’s my hope and my intention that a recent revelation I had in my life may help you in some way in your life and on your journey to finding the One for you and living the life you’ve always dreamed of.

All of my life, since I was very young, I have struggled with my weight. I’ve had moments where I’d whip myself into shape and hover around my healthy weight, but then I’d always self-sabotage and up the scale I’d go. It’s not that I don’t know how to eat right, exercise and it’s not that I don’t have the resources I need to support my health goals. Unconscious self-sabotage just would always kick in in the past… no matter what.

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So I’ve been doing some inner work with a health coach recently that has really helped me get some clarity on the unknown “why” behind my self sabotage. And here’s my Big Reveal: That I keep myself overweight as a martyr for the rest of my life. There’s been this unconscious fear that God will take something or somebody precious away from me as my life just keeps getting better and better, so I need to sacrifice something so everybody and everything else stays okay. So I sacrificed my health.

UGH! This hurts just to write it down and share it out loud.

It’s a hard thing to face up to and to share in public for all to see- I am trembling and tearing up as I write this… AND I know that somehow, someway, a quiet, yet powerful shift has occurred for me. I’ve been seeing a “martyr in the mirror” for so, so long and I’m ready to let her go.

So you might be wondering what does this have to do with YOU and attracting your soulmate and the life of YOUR dreams… and of course I have some questions for you:

1. Do you sacrifice the life of your dreams to keep everybody in your life happy and not intimidated by you?

2. Is there a belief that you hold unconsciously that God will take something away from you if you start to “have it all”… including a loving, drama-free, AMAZING, life-long, fully committed relationship with the right person for you?

3. Could there be a belief inside that you can’t have it all? That SOMETHING must be sacrificed to keep the rest of your life the way you want it?

In other words… is there a martyr in YOUR mirror?

I invite you to check yourself here. Ask yourself these questions and be lovingly ruthless with yourself. If you answered yes to any of the questions… I have one more question for you

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Are you WILLING to let this belief go?

It’s important for you to know that the first crucial step to changing something in your life is awareness of the situation. So if you’re now aware and you weren’t before, awesome!