Most matchmaking services and internet dating sites are focused on the “numbers game” of dating and then eventually you’ll “Bag ‘em, Tag ‘em, and Take Home” the Right One (that’s a real quote from some of the popular dating advice out there). Here are some of my favorite quotes from random singles’ advice blogs:
As posted by a single male: “Now, I have a reasonable opinion of myself. I know I’m certainly not the most perfect guy in the world, but I do know that I have a lot to offer. I think that I present myself well and I know that I don’t have body odor.” Wow. This a low bar!
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Another post by a single male: “We guys spend a lot of time trying to figure out how to approach girls. We try to think of witty and/or interesting things to say that will get her to talk to us and, hopefully, go out with us.” First of all, I am NOT a girl. Girls are underage and illegal for adult males to date. I am a woman. If you are a man, and you call women girls, please change this habit. The wording that you use makes a difference in how you look at us and how we respond to you. A real woman of substance, who respects herself, will not appreciate being called a girl.
As posted by a single female: “If your boyfriend broke up with you, pulled away, is acting distant or stopped calling you, be sure to check out the resources at the bottom of this article to learn how to get him back and make him call you.” MAKE him call you? What? Girlfriend, if he broke up with you- keep your self-respect and pride and MOVE ON.
Posted by a single female: “Get Back Your Boyfriend – The Top Tips to Get Him Back Fast”. Lovely. Again- MOVE ON.
There’s also a very high-end matchmaking service that I just read an article about, and their website asks do you have to “have what it takes” to be a part of their “very exclusive” community of a “very high caliber mix of sophisticated eligibles”. This service charges a minimum of $6,000 up into the 6 figures range. The founder of this company, who’s success is “4 marriages and 30 long term couples” in 7 years says that the biggest challenge is forcing singles out of their comfort zone. She says her biggest challenge is that, “So many frustrated people say they want to meet ‘the one,’ but they don’t change their patterns.” VOILA! That’s it! This is where our training and coaching come in.
Here’s my point, ya’ll: Who you are BEING is determining your success or failure in magnetizing soulmate love.
Take a deep breath.
You see, all the singles advice blogs and matchmaking services out there are skimming the surface of what REALLY needs to be addressed…they are superficial and not getting to the real heart of the matter. It’s who you are BEING.
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Again, take a deep breath.
I realize this is tough talk, but it’s the truth and it has to be said. And I’m not saying you’re not a wonderful, kind, and caring person. There is however, a way or several ways that you are being that most likely is blocking or putting off Soulmate Love for you.