The third toxic love myth is that more is better. “You just need to get out there more”. “You just need to meet more men”. “Just kiss more frogs until you find your prince”.
More is better is a logical and knee jerk response to the other toxic myth, there’s not enough.
The problem is, more is better creates a competitive mindset, especially among women. It breeds a sequence of thoughts like this:
1. There’s just not enough good men to go around---->>>>
2. Well, then, dating more men must be the answer to all of my relationship woes---->>>>
3. I am competing with other women to find a man.
“More is better is a chase with no end and a race without winners. It’s like a hamster wheel that we hope onto get going and then forget how to stop.”
- Lynne Twist, author of the book The Soul of Money
(her “Toxic Myths of Scarcity” are what I’m basing these articles on)
The surprising truth is that there are MANY, MANY good, available, single, heterosexual men out there. Men of Quality do exist! You see, the good news is, all that you’re looking for is ONE. ONE good man. You’re not looking to date tons of men (at least if you’re looking for soulmate love, and you’re subscribed to my newsletter, you’re not)... your goal is to BE the woman who knows that her Higher Power created ENOUGH for her, and that getting into the rat race of dating is not for her.
You see, your goal is to BE the woman who is attractive to the right man (yes, of course, you will probably have to date several men until you find the One- but it won’t have to be hundreds) and to KNOW the type of man who is right for you.
How to do this?
GROW yourself first. All else follows.
Do the inner work with a focus on soulmate love. Invest in yourself. Spend time, energy and money on YOU. Take courses like our Heartbreak to Heart Open Telecourse. Read this blog and read books. Get a Love Mentor to help you see past your blind spots.
And if you’ve been “doing the inner work”... and it hasn’t landed you your soulmate yet?
What do you do?
You KEEP GOING, girlfriend!
Yep... that’s right.
Don’t buy into the 3 Scarcity Myths of Love. Do buy into the Truth of Enough.
Here’s some questions to ask yourself NOW:
1. Am I investing time, energy and money in personal and spiritual empowerment and growth on a regular and consistent basis?
2. Am I APPLYING and USING the principles and tools CONSISTENTLY that I’m learning about attracting the love and the life of my dreams?
3. Do I have a Love Mentor to work with and help me see what I cannot see about myself that could be blocking love from me?
If you replied yes to the above questions... than just KEEP GOING, girlfriend. You are on the right track. If you replied
no, you’ll want to change your priorities in your life and start doing ACTIONS that will change your answers to a YES.
Here’s the next set of questions for you:
4. Am I whining and complaining and blaming others (especially ex-boyfriends and husbands) for why the relationships turned out the way they did? Or am I blaming myself for not doing something differently in those relationships?
5. Am I assuming positive intent from others in my life right now... or assuming that everybody is leaving me out in some way?
6. Am I feeling jealous when I see another woman with a man by her side, wondering, “why can’t that be me?”
If you answered yes to one or more of these questions, then there’s some more work to be done, sister. You may think you’ve been there and done that, but there’s an energy that you’re giving off, and it’s NOT attractive to soulmate love and a life that you totally love.
Ready to change the course of your life? There’s still time to jump in and join us in our live course, but if you’re forging ahead on your own, those questions should help. Wishing you all the best.
P.S. Here’s what a few women who are taking the live Heart Break to Heart Open Course with us right now said:
“I enjoy the way the way this course shapes and is projecting us back to Ourselves. Also, love this idea of a community and the sense of camaraderie that it creates.”
“My take home for today is to stop waiting for a man to love me and “make me happy” but to take full responsibility for my own happiness .The night was so peaceful, I felt grateful for the life I have created for myself, I felt empowered …”
“During the Live Q & A Call #1, I wept throughout. I was deeply moved by the questions which I related to, and I very much appreciated that this course is not about changing oneself to pursue men and to fit their specifications, or to be right in a man’s eyes, but is about empowering women to reclaim their power, to be themselves, and to be adored for it. Cultural hypnosis fools women into believing that the man is the most important member in a relationship; and not a mutual dynamic of relating in a balanced, proportional way where each is acknowledged as a person in their own right.
I so appreciate the Communication Wall and reading what other women are experiencing…all aspects of myself in some form or other. The Course is the best decision I have made. “
I’m not sure when or IF we’ll be doing this course again live, and you can still join us HERE.
P.S. Is emotional eating stressing you out? Johnny and I know through experience that the key to attracting your soulmate is to raise your vibration, lower your stress, and love yourself. We love to bring you resources to help you with that.
This is why we want to introduce you to our friend and colleague, Kristen Kancler, who wrote an e-book called, “Stop Feeling Like a Prisoner: 7 Keys to Free Yourself From Emotional Eating.” This can help you to align with a healthy and vibrant you, which opens the door to love, helps you to release guilt and shame, and have peace with food. Click here to get your copy!