The 3 Scarcity Myths of Love (Part 1 of 3)

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The 3 Scarcity Myths of Love (Part 1 of 3)
Learn the first scarcity myth of love.

Start thinking “Enough Thinking”. But to start to truly access that experience of enough, you have to be willing to let go of a lifetime of scarcity thinking. I know, this can be easier said than done. Here’s some ideas to get you started:

1. Start a gratitude journal. And keep it by on your bedside table and write in it every night before you go to bed or
when you wake up in the morning first thing. Write at least 5 things you are thankful for that day. You only need 5 minutes. C’mon, if you don’t have 5 minutes, you need to change something in your life!

Some days, you may just be thankful for the roof over your head, or the food on your table-- that’s okay. Just stay focused on what you’re thankful about, and start looking for “enough” in your life everyday. Did you have enough food to eat? Did your child have enough clothes to wear today? Did you enjoy that beautiful yard of autumn leaves on the ground? Where is there enough in your life right now? What you focus on, expands. What you don’t focus on, shrinks.

 

2. Start catching yourself if you hear a scarcity thought inside your head. And create an affirmation to course-correct when your mind starts to spiral into negativity of any kind. For instance, if you catch yourself being jealous of another woman because she has a husband or partner, here’s what to do:

a. Notice the thoughts.
b. Be kind to yourself (this is crucial- don’t be mean to yourself) and change up your thoughts with an affirmation like this:

 

“I love and accept myself exactly as I am right now, and I deserve love.”

or

“There are plenty of good men on the planet (or in my area, or in my town), and all I have to do is find ONE of them. There’s plenty to go around!”

All right, girlfriend. Join me next week as I share the second myth of scarcity around love and relationships... and if you liked this article today, please press the LIKE button, and the SHARE button and pass it along to someone you care about.

Also, if you’d like to comment, or have a question, please know that you are welcome to below in the comments section. I’d love to hear from you. Thank you and have a fantastic week.

“When you think about attracting a soulmate type of relationship, start thinking about being and having enough in your life RIGHT NOW, as it is. If you are in a scarcity mindset about you and your offering and your value in the world, that makes it very challenging, if not impossible, to attract the love you truly desire. Start thinking “Enough-thinking” right now.”

- Dr. Lara Fernandez

 

P.S. Wow! Last night's Never Settle Again in Love call you asked so many great questions there just wasn't enough time to answer them! This Thursday, Nov 1st, at 6:00pm PDT we will be live for a full hour of Q + A for you! Questions about the Heartbreak to Heart Open Telecourse, The Magic of Heartbreak, and Never Settle Again - bring 'em on, and we'll be there! Click Here for Details.

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