The second scarcity myth of love is “that’s just the way it is”, and there’s no way to change it. There’s not enough good men in my city, some people are just destined to be alone, I’m too old and relationships are not really meant to last forever. It’s not fair, I don’t like it, but.... *sigh*, that’s just the way it is. Oh well.
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“That’s just the way it is” is just another myth, but it’s probably got the most zing to it, because you can always find a way to agree with it. When this myth is allowed to prevail in your consciousness, it’s easy to fall prey to the trance and yes, the resignation of this particular myth. It’s easy to just throw up your hands and give up on your dreams.
Johnny and I just started our brand new telecourse for single women all over the world, called the Heartbreak to Heart Open Telecourse. The 95 women that have joined us so far (you can still jump in and join us!) are intentionally breaking down this myth of that’s just the way it is to create a new reality and new circumstances for themselves. Here’s what one of them shared just yesterday about the first class in the 5 week course:
“What a great first class!. I purchased this program because something called to me that I needed to do work in this area. I am a busy mom and entrepreneur and really do not feel I have time to devote to a relationship. However, I have learned so much about myself. Even though I already have done a ton of personal growth, this is different. I did not realize even my story about not having enough time for a relationship is a way to protect myself. Thank you so much Lara and Johnny for your care, love and insight into helping me and every other woman here to grow in this part of our life.”
That’s just the way it is keeps you stuck in old stories of not enough (remember the 1st scarcity myth?) It also keeps you stuck in old relationship patterns of giving your power away and losing yourself in relationships. Somehow, someway, you’re going to have to bust this myth, call it out, and DO something to break yourself out of these unhealthy patterns!
Here’s what another woman had to share just yesterday after listening to Class #1 that was sent out via recording (you’ll receive it instantly when you register now):
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“What I love most so far about this class is being able to have my heart open without losing myself. I’ve been on a spiritual path for quite a few years now but I realized just how much I really need to explore this whole issue. I know in the past I have given my power away and now I can take 100% responsibility for what I am creating and attracting into my life. Thank you, everyone for sharing and thank you, Lara and Johnny, for a wonderful class!”
So, how do you break out of “That’s just the way it is”?
1. Realize that it’s a MYTH... it’s not necessarily true, but it sure feels like it is.