Try online dating or meeting men in places where you know you will have things in common. If you have tried online dating before and you haven’t gotten the results you wanted, maybe it is time to take a fresh approach. If you are going to do online dating, first, you will need to decide which online dating service you will use. I recommend using a well respected site that does personality matching for compatibility. Then, you will need to post a profile. Post attractive, recent pictures. Then create a profile that truly reflects you. To attract a match that you would truly be happy with, you have to be 100% authentically yourself. Be the best version of yourself, but don’t pretend to be anything that you are not. Make sure to include your best qualities and the things you genuinely love to do. Don’t try to be what you think “men” want, create a profile that specifically targets the type of man that that has the qualities you want in a relationship. For example, if you want a man that shares your world view and you are into the Law of Attraction, mention that you are into the Law of Attraction. Don’t be afraid that saying that might scare some men off. Instead, know this will attract the right men to you. Be selective and screen out people that have your “deal breakers”. If you agree to meet someone, make sure you do it in a public place, drive yourself and never drink too much on a date. Finally, remember, it is a date not an interview! Have fun, relax and enjoy.
Step 4: Choose to be Happy in Love
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You have to approach this whole thing in a positive, fun way. Believe with every fiber of your being that you are going to attract the love that is right for you. And believe that the person you hope to find is also looking to find someone just like you! Your job in all this is choosing the right “fit” for you. Keep on dating and having fun. Focus on the most important qualities you are looking for in a partner and don’t compromise and go out with a man who has one of your “deal breakers”. Never try to make it work with the wrong man. Choose the right man. Never forget that there are many men out there who could be a great “fit” for you and that you are the one who will be choosing one of these men. Being happy is a choice. Choose to be happy in a positive, loving relationship that is the right “fit” for you!
Many of you are just getting started with dating and others have been dating a long time. If you have been dating online and you haven’t gotten the results you want, maybe it is time that you took a fresh approach. Whether you are just starting out or you are starting over, it’s time to get a brand new perspective on dating!
Kelley Chappell, PhD
Kelley Chappell, PhD is an author, an award winning professor of psychology, an international speaker and a dating and relationship coach for women with 20+ years of experience. Her scientific research on relationships has been presented at International Conferences and published in International journals.
Her mission is to inspire and empower women to love themselves, love their lives and be truly happy in love. Her book, Happy in Love: A Woman's Step by Step Guide to Love, Attraction, Dating and Relationships draws on the Law of Attraction, Positive Psychology and the Science of Happiness. She is the founder of The Happy in Love Club and the creator of the Happy in Love Monthly Audio Series. Her program, Using the Law of Attraction to Attract the Love of Your Life will be available soon. Visit her at www.HappyInLove.com.
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