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How To Align Your Mind To Enjoy The Successes In Life


It's time you started to look within.

The day that I reached the 300k mark in my business I didn't feel happy.

I had been frequently attending fancy events staying in fancy hotelsyou know the kind with really large water features, perfect gardens, and extremely polite staffthe kind who say "can I do anything else for you miss" right after they have done anything for you. 

I had a book published. People were seeking me out for my expertise daily. I was on my way to the big time!

I did not feel happy because it was not in alignment with who I am. I love healthy organic food, funky boutique hotels, intimate and powerful events. I love things that feed my soul not just my wallet.

I am in business so that I can go to a balmy tropical island in the winter and feel the sand on my bare toes, so that I can continue to learn what is going on within the cutting edge of my field. I am in business so that I can create quality.

I truly believe that business can have the power to change the world and what is more, I know some key things that entrepreneurs like you are missing when it comes to creating your very own business.

I was not paying attention the way I needed to be. I was too busy doing. The answer to fix this problem is coming back into alignment.

Alignment is when who you are and what you are about is unobstructed by thoughts, emotions or experiences. A simple way to say it is: You are thinking, feeling and doing what is right for you. Not right based on what your ego might want but right for you from the place deep insidethe deepest truest part of who you are.

A definition of alignment is a position of agreement or alliance.

It is also possible to describe alignment by the saying that the inner and outer are in agreement. They are mutually supportive. One of the ways that we can tell if there is alignment is through the experience of resonance.

While resonance can be used to direct ourselves in other ways, it can help us now if we are on the right track by giving us that feeling of "home" or "rightness."

In physics, resonance is "A phenomenon that consists of a given system being driven by another vibrating system or by external forces to oscillate with greater amplitude at some preferential frequencies."

Again, another way to put this is that when you are in the presence of something or someone that is resonant there is an effect that happens. Something on the outside of you resounds with something on the inside of you letting you know that there is an agreeable relationship.

You can use this experience to help you make choices in all parts of our life.

Here is the trick. Often, we do not have contact with the deepest and truest part of ourselves and so we need to develop that as well. Here are some ways to listen to what is truly important about who you are and what you are desiring:

  1. Meditate: Learn to see your mental and emotional chatter as simply that and not who you are. 

  2. Pay Attention: Know what it feels like to be in an environment that you at least guess is ideal for you. 

  3. Know With More Than Your Mind: Your heart and your gut are great resources for staying on track.

  4. Watch What Happens: Be an observer of your life. You will learn a ton!

As with most consciousness skills, observation is the starting point. They require that you pay attention to what is often overlooked. Slowing things down or taking pauses throughout your day can help immensely when growing these skills. And these skills can help immensely in growing a more successful and fulfilled life.

This article was originally published at Reprinted with permission from the author.


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