Honeymoon Phase Do-Over: 5 Ways To Rekindle The Romance

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Honeymoon Phase Do-Over: 5 Ways To Rekindle The Romance [EXPERT]
If you long for the days when your relationship was new, Dr. Karen Sherman can help!

As a relationship expert, one of the most common complaints I hear from couples is that they just don't have the same feelings they did in the beginning of their relationship. Can you relate to this?

If you're in a relationship that has moved to the committed stage, one that's lasted for a while, there's a good chance that you look back on the the so-called honeymoon phase of your relationship with fondness. You've gotten past those first couple of dates and decided that the two of you do, in fact, have an interest in one another. As you reflect on it, a smile comes to your face along with nice memories.

Unfortunately, for most couples it is just that — a memory. Generally, what happens to most couples is that there seems to be a trade-off. The good news is that you've committed to each other. The bad news is that you also start to take each other for granted and things start to become complacent. (Luckily, a relationship can be revitalized!)

Think for a moment about the real reason that you want to be part of a relationship. My guess is that you, like everyone else, want to feel like you matter. After all, that's a major component of what you get be being with someone — the validation that you matter to that other person.

In the beginning of a relationship, you get large doses of this because of all the attention that you are giving to each other. It's almost like no one else in the world exists.

Here's more good news: You can have the honeymoon phase back. All you have to do is recreate the basics of what you did back then. Of course, it's likely not to be exactly the same since aspects of your partnership has changed; but the main element of letting your mate know that he or she matters is what matters!

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Dr. Karen Sherman is a Psychologist and radio host of Your Empowered Relationship as well as the co-author of "Marriage Magic! Find It, Keep It, and Make it Last" and award winning "Mindfulness and The Art of Choice: Transform Your Life." Her experet advice is sought after in print, radio, and TV. 
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Location: Plainview, NY
Credentials: MFT, NCC, PhD
Specialties: Couples/Marital Issues
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