This not only involves the bride, but those closely involved (parents, in-laws, etc.) in planning the wedding. I, myself, for a short time, experienced it by feeling less motivated to do anything and somewhat lacking in interest in other activities. So, are there things you can do to avoid "post-wedding blues?" Yes! Here are some ideas:
- Remember that your marriage bigger than the day. Don't necessarily make your wedding day the end all and be all. Though you want the day to be a wonderful one, keep in mind that it's a celebration of the marriage of the two of you. So, keep the proper perspective on what the day means.
- Keep proper focus. As a relationship expert, it's my sincere wish that more couples would put the same amount of focus on understanding what is needed to make their relationships work as they do to make their wedding celebration a festive one. When your relationship is the main focus, this will help you not feel so blue afterwards.
- Make future preparations. Start to have some plans for what you'll be doing after the wedding. Begin to think about what your relationship will look like and will need to be successful going forward, especially in its first year.
- Have proper expectations. Know that going through a let down is a possibility. When you are prepared for something, if it happens, it won't be as upsetting and you can flow through it more easily.
- Reflect on memories. You likely hired a photographer and perhaps a videographer. Use these pictures and videos to re-experience the event and talk about it with each other, with family and friends. This way, the wedding day lives on rather than coming to an abrupt halt.
Weddings are wonderful. As with any other event, there’s so much time put into the planning and then they go so fast! As both a relationship expert and a mom who has married off two daughters, I always tell those getting married, the following: Several times through the event, stop and look around — take it all in. Make sure to enjoy your very special day!