Despite what some authors and commentators say, confrontation, either direct or indirect through literature, is NOT ALWAYS was the right thing to do. It works in some situations, it most definitely does not work in other situations. What does work is to start and live your own life. It does not necessarily require that you move out of the marital home, instead it may be that you carve out a life for yourself, independent of the drinker but still within the home. This may or may not lead to the drinker changing or seeking help, but it must and will lead to much more satisfying and fulfilling life for yourself. It will also be much better for any children in the relationship.
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