Dear Lea Michele: It Is Going To Be Okay


Dear Lea Michele: It Is Going To Be Okay
Care and compassion are more powerful forces for change than punishment and lectures.

I long to be rich one day, not to have a fancy house or car, but to be in a better financial position to provide the means for a vehicle for change. Perhaps the most powerful tool for change we have for our younger generation is the concept of image. Telling a teenager not to do something that is dangerous just seems to enhance the peculiar lure of forbidden fruit. However, there are other ways to get the message across. To tell a teenager, male or female, on a regular basis that drinking or getting stoned is a sexual turn-off, I suspect would hit the mark much more powerfully. 

Let us send a strong, regular and definite message, enhanced by any star that is willing to stand up and be counted, that getting drunk or getting stoned is not cool or attractive. It lets us down and turns us off.


As we said in our first article, we recognize that you can't force people. You can take a horse to water but you can't make it drink. We can and must understand that love and care can influence change. We are glad that the people in Bottled Up continue, despite their struggles, to still love and be with their alcoholic, because we believe that care and compassion are more powerful forces for change than punishment and lectures.

We need to continue to discover effective intervention strategies that can be applied by families and friends (prehab). We need to learn to gallop the horse until he becomes as thirsty for change as we are.

Lea, you are beautiful and talented, and you will go far. When the grieving is over, you may want to take up the legacy of Cory's death with a new passion. You could help implement new ways forward in these painful areas. You have a gift and an opportunity of great influence on your generation, and may choose to invest the pain to ensure that Cory's death is a catalyst for greater impact on the way that people live, love and celebrate life. Our hearts are with you, Lea.

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Dr John McMahon & Lou Lewis

Bottled Up

Location: Exeter, DEV, United Kingdom
Credentials: BS, PhD
Specialties: Addiction, Drug and Alcohol, Family Support
Website: Bottled Up
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