How To Cope With Your Drunk Partner (& Save The Relationship)

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Is your partner's drinking ruining your relationship?

That's why I love our Bottled Up forum, because if you are short of ideas other members may come up with some brilliant suggestions to help out here! It may be the worst time for your relationship with your drinker, but you can work on making it a good time for you. This may well feel counter-intuitive (and, in some ways, it is) but don't allow the alcohol to wreak even more damage than it already has!

Be proactive, be creative or even take the offensive! This is your partner's problem — it doesn't have to be yours. This is where detaching in love is crucial, sensible and poignantly relevant.

I've walked this path personally and these strategies are lessons painfully learned over a long period of time so go easy on yourself. Do what you can a little at a time and take back control of your life and situation. It won't always be easy but every new change brings a new sense of empowerment and a new hope for a more lasting change.

Don't go into this summer season unprepared. If your partner regularly comes up with inappropriate behavior, figure out some appropriate boundaries and responses. You may not be able to control their behavor, but you can certainly exert control over your family and your own  choices; and if, in the end, you decide that "enough is enough," know that you have applied all that is possible to make your relationship work.

Find out more about how to live with an alcoholic by going to Bottled Up where you will find videos, articles and audios on this topic.

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Dr John McMahon & Lou Lewis

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Dr John McMahon & Lou Lewis

Bottled Up

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Location: Exeter, DEV, United Kingdom
Credentials: BS, PhD
Specialties: Addiction, Drug and Alcohol, Family Support
Website: Bottled Up
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