The only thing that is missing from your life without your soul mate’s presence is the opportunity to experience these other portions of yourself. Think about what happens to someone when they have a child. The parent inside of them comes alive. That piece of their soul was always with them, but this particular part of their soul wasn’t needed until the child came along.
Soul Mates & Soul Contracts
If you can open your mind to the idea that there are many people on this planet to create a soulful connection with, it begins to remove the fear from your search. Suddenly, instead merely searching for “The One” you’re now looking for soulful connections from everyone you meet. The definition of a soul mate changes to be anyone you choose to grow with; be they lovers, friends, children, co-workers or family.
With these people, you form what’s called “soul contracts” and you act out different roles together. Some soul mates become people who teach you things and then they move on. Other people will be in your life for decades to help your soul expand and share more of your true self with the world.
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The soul contract that you form with a person you marry or engage in a lifelong partnership with is unique from any others because of the intimacy, vulnerability and time associated with it. This is one of the many reasons we are so tied to the search for a romantic soul mate, we’re hungry to grow together with someone who wants the same thing for their lives.
Learning Your Lessons
Something else to consider is that some soul contracts are played out in light – like best friends who come together or lovers who become partners in life. Other soul contracts are played out in the dark, and are opportunities to experience your mutual flaws and your shadow self. When considering the business of your soul, it’s important to remember that all of our lessons matter; those that bring joy and those that are painful. Learning the lessons experienced from our soul contracts are important so we can avoid repeating them.
All too often people get into similar relationships only to feel like “they’ve been there before”. This is the sign that you’re repeating a lesson because you still need to understand why you got into this kind of relationship to begin with. Understand the lesson and you will move on and stop attracting the same kind of partners.
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Timing has a lot to do with how we connect with people and form these contracts. Many singles have had the experience of feeling like someone they were dating had the “possibility” to be the one, only to see it fizzle out because the timing was off. In that experience, you get to taste the parts of your soul that are longing to come to light and the work here is to stay positive and assured that your soul is leading the way; it’s ready for love to come in.