Parents also can support their children to not take the reactions of others personally. When children realize that no one else can make them angry, sad or afraid, and that only they themselves can, they learn to not be reactive and easily provoked by other's issues. Parents can teach their children to forgive themselves for the mistakes they make. Anger: Cleansing Squall or Hurricane?
They can teach them the value of cleaning up any mistakes by speaking and acting responsibly. They can also teach them to forgive others, knowing that they are doing the best they can based upon how they see the world. This does not mean that bad behavior is to be condoned, however. It simply means that it is important to understand why others do hurtful things at times, and distinguish that they do them because of their own perceptions, prejudices and insecurities, rather than interpreting that they do them to us.
Parents can teach their children to have gratitude for their blessings in life. They can teach them that the world is an endless source of abundance for those who believe in themselves and their ability to attract good things. They can teach them to expect success, happiness and rich relationships. They can also teach them to bargain for what they want, as they stay committed to their goals with a vision of success in their minds.
Many mistakenly confuse high self-esteem with ego. It is important to distinguish between fostering high self-esteem in children, as opposed to creating ego-maniacs
obsessed with themselves at the expense of others. High self-esteem means being competent and capable of producing a result in every area of life. This includes being effective in relationships and in communication with others, with an appreciation for what it is like in the world of other people. Those who care only about themselves with no concern for others do not, by my definition, possess high self-esteem.
It would serve parents to commit themselves to being perpetual students of personal development, knowing that their children will model their actions and their approach to life around them. It is with such an energy of respect, love and acceptance that children will receive the tools they'll need to manage their destructive moods, create empowering interpretations that support relationships and grow into self-actualized, happy and self-assured adults that possess high self-esteem.