During such potentially upsetting events, the child reinforces this idea of his unworthiness by further interpreting life events to prove the fact that he/she is defective or inadequate in some significant way. After years of accumulating such evidence, his self-image deteriorates further with every episode. Before long, there is no doubt in his mind that there is something wrong with them. After all, he has created a self-fulfilling prophesy to cement this belief firmly in his self-perception. 10 Signs Your Teenager Is Depressed
Parents can do only so much to help their children feel good about themselves, and to champion their positive self-image. They can continually reinforce the concept that no one is perfect, and all one can do is their best. They can be a source of unconditional love, supporting the child at every opportunity, and encouraging them to see themselves as worthy of affection, abundance, love and trust. They can make sure that the child understands that they, as parents, might not always agree with the child's behavior.
In addition, most parents will continually emphasize that the child is not their behavior. Everyone makes mistakes, and life is a process of learning and growing. No matter what mistakes the child makes, he or she must realize that they are always inherently good, lovable and worthy. Parents can continually reinforce that they love their children unconditionally.
However, children need to realize that even when they make mistakes and parents do not approve of their behavior, this does not affect their love for them or their sense of value. Children will benefit from knowing that they are loved for who they are and not just what they do.
Parents can speak respectfully to their children, reassuring them of their competence, capability and inherent value. They can empower them to make their own choices whenever possible, fostering their belief in their own ability to make wise decisions and learn from their mistakes. They can give them responsibilities that nurture their self-confidence and belief in their abilities.
Whether these activities include making their bed, helping with household chores, or selecting their favorite juice at the grocery store, each can serve as an opportunity for the child to grow in self-confidence. Parents can consistently acknowledge their children for worthwhile qualities they see in them. They can get into the habit of finding something good about their children every day, and pointing it out. Parents can support their children to see what might be missing for them to be more effective with other people, or in accomplishing their goals.
Rather than focusing on their weakness and faults, they can empower their strengths and communicate that everyone has unique talents and gifts that make them special. They can support their children to identify their passions, pursue their special interests and develop their gifts. Parents can teach their children to interpret life with empathy. They can support them to imagine what it's like in another person's world, so they can better understand why people do the things they do.