By Dr. Joe Rubino
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There is far too much confusion about whether the law of attraction is some magical myth or if it is a valid natural law that can be supported by our behavior. Here are 5 concrete things that anyone can do to support their ability to harness the Law of Attraction to better manifest a dream life in every way.
1. Create an inspirational written vision
We all already have a vision. Just look at what is showing up in your life. Your health, relationships, happiness, work fulfillment, wealth, and peace of mind are perfectly consistent with what you have attracted to you. Notice how your actual vision falls far short of the dream life you wish for!
A powerful vision will emotionally move you to do whatever it takes to manifest your dream life into reality. It consists of the qualities you wish to be known for (being), the things you’ll do on a typical day at work or play (doing), all the things, toys, and people you will surround yourself with (having), and the people and causes you will impact as you live your life and enjoy the process of learning, experiencing, and growing (contributing.)
Write your compelling vision out in first person, present tense (I am…) not (I will…). Read it at least twice a day, upon rising and before bed.
Remember to tweak and update your vision at least monthly as powerful written visions are dynamic and change over time, just as you do.
2. Manage your interpretations aggressively
We have it that the facts of history are unchangeable. They happen to us and there is nothing we can do to alter the traumas that we have faced. What we fail to fully realize is that we are not so much impacted by the facts of history but rather by the interpretations that we created about those facts. How did the most emotional events that you experienced affect your assumptions about yourself, others, and the world in general? When you create empowering interpretations, have empathy for what it was like in the other person’s world to cause them to say or act as they did, and give others the benefit of the doubt, you can free yourself of much of the emotional turmoil you needlessly carry around daily with you.
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Get into the habit of creating interpretations that do not allow you to be offended by or to dominate others. Give up your right to be right. Release your emotional addiction to anger, sadness, or fear and put a positive spin on any previously upsetting events so that you build your relationships, maintain your happiness, and live from the declaration of the type of person you have decided to be.
3. Keep your reactive nature in check
Identify your most prevalent reactive mood in times of upset. Do you typically react with anger? Do you sulk, become depressed, or throw a pity party for yourself? Do you scan for things to worry about because you are addicted to fear? Until you can recognize how you are wired and what runs you, you will be at the affect of the slightest provocations and will actually scan for upsetting events and difficult people – just to get your emotional fix!