How Much Porn Is Too Much?

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How Much Porn Is Too Much?
Focused on whether porn is right or wrong distracts from helping men who view it.

Compulsively looking at porn can be a way of avoiding emotional connectedness with a significant other and be an intimacy disorder. If you were raised in a home where love was rarely shown or was replaced by emotional, physical and verbal abuse, then you may have learned that close relationships feel scary. This can leave you with a courtship disorder, in which you seek to avoid most if not all dating and relationship skills. If so, then compulsive sexual behavior can seem like the ideal solution to the psyche to “fix” the problem, since it can’t ever reject you, abandon you, or hurt you.

Looking at pornography can be normal and healthy. Most men learn about their sexuality and sexual interests through porn beginning in their teenage years by stealing glances and magazines from their fathers and, these days, from the Internet. It can also become unhealthy and dangerous and ruin lives and relationships.

My hope from those who read this article is for a balanced assessment of porn viewing without a pre-judged decision about whether it is good or bad. Get to know the person who views it, not the porn itself.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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