Life Lessons From The Boston Marathon Tragedy

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Life Lessons From The Boston Marathon Tragedy
Tragedy can be a reminder to focus on what's important in life and relationships.

Why? You deserve it. You need it. And in this crazy world where people set bombs off at the end of marathons, we could all blow to pieces at any minute.

There will be more tragedy. That is a guarantee. We can't predict how close to home it will hit. We can predict that if you are safely and securely connected to someone, you are going to be better off, tragedy or no tragedy. And if your loved is destroyed and you survive, you are going to be better off for having had a better relationship with them. People securely connected to their partners fare much better after the loss of their loved ones than those who had a more difficult relationship.

So don't be afraid. Or, better yet, if you are afraid, embrace your fear and walk into it so that you can grow. The only time is now. Don't put your best life and your best relationship off any longer.

Talk to your partner and do something about it today.  If you're in New York, reach out to us by visiting www.mybestrelationship.com. If you're in Boston, check out New England Community for EFT. May this crisis in Boston be an opportunity for all of us to embrace and make the most of our lives, for they could blow up in smoke any minute. Let's go down with as little regrets as possible.

"One can appreciate & celebrate each moment — there's nothing more sacred. There's nothing more vast or absolute. In fact, there's nothing more!" ― Pema Chödrön

Cheers to your best relationship — Jenev

P.S. If you were impacted by this tragedy, here are some tips for coping:

  • Everyone deals with trauma in their own way, there is no right way to experience trauma.
  • Sometimes people just need to talk. If this is you, seek supportive people out who will hear you out and won't push your buttons. In other words, open up to the right people, you know who they are. If this is a loved one, just listen. No need to offer advice on how to fix things unless they're asking, but just listen and be supportive.
  • Shut the TV off. You don't need to see it. If you have kids, really shut it off.
  • If you have kids, let them talk about their experience of what happened. Help them feel safe and let them know you love them. Like Mr. Rogers says, focus on the helpers.

The American Psychological Association offers more tips for coping with traumatic events here.

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