Marital Conflict


Marital Conflict
Here's how I see Marital Conflict, and how to effectively deal with the conflict.

Marital therapy, focusing on the relationship, can best be accomplished when both spouses feel comfortable with the therapist. By “comfortable” I do not mean complacent. It is vital to seek out someone that will sufficiently challenge, encourage, and support each spouse in a detailed examination about their conflicts, attitudes, beliefs, and behaviors. Only then can each spouse's assumptions about marriage and relationships be examined, new alternatives explored, new plans and strategies tried, and old conflicts reduced, or ended. Cooperation between spouses is essential because either one could sabotage the marital therapy. However, even if one spouse does try to sabotage the marital therapy, they will both learn what is going on that can be avoided in the future, e.g. the spouse that is trying to work on the conflict will soon realize that there is nothing he/she can do, and develop an independent plan that does not include the other spouse.
    There are a wide variety of mental health professionals engaged in marital therapy. Psychologists, Marriage, Family and Child Counselors, Licensed Clinical Social Workers, Clergymen and Psychiatrists are the typical professionals most likely to be trained to provide marital therapy. Whether a couple seeks out the assistance of marital therapy with a private practitioner, or through a public agency, it is important to consider two things. First is the issue of cost, considering that legal fees for divorces between uncooperative spouses can be two to four times the cost of therapy. Second, is whether you can afford not to get marital therapy.

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