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Date who you want, not who "they" want for you.

Ok, I know what you're probably thinking, but no, no, it's not me. As a matter of fact it's not any man I know, or any woman I know for that matter (although a few women have come really close and I mean really damn close!)

Having said that, I think we need to take a closer look at this idea of perfection because I hear singletons and those who are unhappily married talk about finding their "perfect match" or "ideal soul mate" all the time.

But what does that really mean? Is perfect possible?

Is there such a thing? A perfect car? A perfect dress? A perfect suit? A perfect house? A perfect song? A perfect trip? A perfect day?

I've seen some that come pretty close in my opinion, but it was just thatmy opinion. But guess what, in my world that's all that really matters isn't it? Especially when it comes to finding that "perfect" person to be with.

So many of us, and I'm guilty of this as well, live out our lives based on the expectations of those around us. Our peer groups. Our friends. Our family. Our co-workers. Our children. If they like it then we like it. If they think it's cool then we think it's cool.

If they think something or someone is perfect then we think they're perfect. If they think we should be happy then we too think we should be happy with whatever or whomever it is they think we should be happy with…and this is about the point where most people start to "should" all over themselves!

Here's my advice, the next time someone suggests to you a life, a lifestyle and a partner that you should live and have why don't you offer them a suggestion in return…tell them that if they think that life is such a great idea then they should go live it!

And then you go get busy living your own life! Because your life is just that…YOURS! Embrace it. In all it's perfectly imperfect ways! And for once and for allstop apologizing for what you like!

If you like to date "bad boys" then date 'em! (But learn how not to get burnt!) If you like women who are high on style and low on substance, then date 'em! (But know when and how to re-fuel on you own.)

If you like ditsy airheads, then date 'em! (But keep the conversation light!) If you like muscle bound brutes, then date 'em! (Congrats. Your gift giving just got a hell of a lot easierbirthdays, holidays, anniversariesProtein Bars! Done!)

If you like the no nonsense clean exchange of goods for umm..."services"...from dating "gold diggers", then date 'em! (Just keep your Am Ex card paid up!)

If you like thugs, by all means darlin', then date 'em! (Just keep his bail bondsman on speed dial! And don’t let him borrow the keys to your car, home, credit card, phone...on second thought, you might want to rethink that one!)

The point is you should date what you like, just make sure you understand why you like it! Know what to expect and what not to expect. And if and when that type no longer suits you and it's time to date someone new, you can do that too!

That's life. That's growth. Your tastes have the right to evolve over time. You have the right to date who you want! It's ok. There doesn't always have to be some grand scheme or ultimate plan when it comes to dating.

The goal of dating doesn't always have to be marriage. It's ok to just enjoy each other's company. To enjoy the intimacy. To enjoy the closeness. To love each other right here, right now, today, for all that they are and all that they are not.

One of my favorite movies is The Last Samurai with Tom Cruise and Ken Watanabe. Throughout the movie Ken's character, "Katsumoto" speaks of finding the "perfect blossom." He says, "The perfect blossom is a rare thing. You could spend your life looking for one, and it would not be a wasted life."

(Spoiler Alert!) At the end of the movie, at battle's end, with his dying breath he finally sees the perfect blossom and finally realizes and says, "Perfect...they are all...perfect..."

Go get that blossom folks!

Until next time!

Love Strong!

Dr. Ish

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