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How To 'F' Your Way To A Man's Heart

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4 Simple Rules that begin with the Letter 'F' that will Have Him Eating Out of the Palm of your Hand

No, no, no … It’s not what you think! Well … maybe it is. Men are simple. I repeat, simple. As such, there are only four simple things you will ever need to do in life to find, catch and keep any man you want! I call them the Four ‘F’s.

Let’s start with FLIRTING

Simply put ladies, you must turn him on! Stimulating intellectual conversation is all well and good and may in time be the thing that really connects the two of you. But you will never get to that point if he is not attracted to what he first sees. Men gather information about you from what you show him. Give him something to talk about! One of the things men love about women is their attention to detail. So ladies, do that. Pay attention to the finer details of you. Wear colors that flatter you! Your skin tone, your hair-color, your eyes, your shade of lipstick should all fit together in a nice package.

Men notice this! Wear clothes that flatter you and you alone! Choose outfits that show everything you want to be seen and hide whatever you don’t. And heels are a must! There was actually a French study that showed men are much more likely to ‘approach a woman and offer her things’ when she’s wearing heels as opposed to flats. In addition to the overall elevation of … things … heels also give you an air of confidence. Men find that confidence irresistible!

Next up. FEED HIM!

Have you ever heard that old saying ‘the quickest way to a man’s heart is through his stomach?' Well in part that’s true. A man needs to know that day in and day out you will be able to take care of him. Being fed is a critical part of a man’s care package. Eating is a critical part of most men’s days. It makes him feel full. It makes him feel satisfied. It makes him feel gratified after a long day. If you’re the one helping with that, it will bond you to him quite strongly. By no means am I saying that you need to slave away the day in a hot kitchen, but in some way you need to be able to take credit for the main meal he’s eating.

Pick the type of food. Pick the restaurant. Pick the wine. Pick the condiment. Something. Anything. Just be a part of that equation. Stomach fed. Now feed his ego! I know, I know for some of you that may seem a bit condescending or beneath you. Maybe. However, I’m just telling you what works. Let him know how great you think he is. How important he is. How much you like his hair, his eyes, his smile, his style, his car, his home, his after-shave lotion … whatever! You want to communicate to him exactly why it is you feel he is so awesome! Women aren’t the only ones who need to feel appreciated!

Now we’re getting down to the nitty-gritty: FROLIC!

Sex! Sex! Sex! (Or anything reasonably close) It’s what men want! Now if you’ve chosen to be celibate then you’ll need to find a ‘work around’. If this is not a road you’re currently willing to travel then you’re going need to be up front about that, so that you both can find a more suitable travel companion. But for you ladies who are ready, willing and able to go there; then go there you must!

One word here ladies. Energy! Zest! Verve! (Ok three words:). Men believe any job worth doing is worth doing right. Sex is no different. We need to feel like you're excited to be there. I’m not saying we need you doing double backflips off of the headboard and sticking the landing … but we do need high energy. We get excited when we think you’re excited! It’s why men love cheerleaders so much … team spirit! 2! 4! 6! 8! Who do we appreciate? Men!

Lastly ladies, after all those deeds are done.

You must set him FREE.

Wait! Hold on! It’s not what you think. It’s counter-intuitive logic. This is a top-secret peek into a man’s mind here. Men hate to feel stuck. Men hate to feel trapped. Men hate to feel obligated. Set him free. Do you want to guarantee that he will call back? Do you want to guarantee that he will not be able to stop thinking about you? After an amazing night of flirting, feeding, and frolicking his brains out … you must set him free!

After such a great evening, a lot of men will feel obligated to have you stay; as well they should. It’s the right thing to do. But that doesn’t mean he’s going to do it! Did any of you ever see that ‘Sex in the City’ episode when Aidan kept asking Carrie for ‘space’? Remember what happened the second she decided to give it to him? He didn’t want it anymore! Give a man what he thinks he wants and he will absolutely not want it! Gather your things and walk right out his door and I guarantee he will be on your phone before you make it out of the driveway! He’ll invite you back and won’t be able to stand the thought of you leaving! Ask any guy and if he’s honest he’ll tell you this is true. Trust me on this one ladies.

Until next time … Love Strong!

Dr. Ish


This article was originally published at Dr. Ish's Blog. Reprinted with permission from the author.


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