Self Improvement can Improve Your Love Relationship

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Self Improvement can Improve Your Love Relationship
How Focusing on your Own Emotional Business can Improve Conflict Resolution and Enhance Intimacy
How Focusing on your Own Emotional Business can Improve Conflict Resolution and Enhance Intimacy

The factors that create and sustain a successful relationship can sometimes seem elusive.  Particularly in the environment in which we find ourselves today… We are inundated with news of divorce, infidelity, cyber cheating, emotional affairs and so on. The topic of longevity and lasting contentment in relationships is on the rise, especially in the wake of the recent activity of Representative Weiner and Arnold Schwarzenegger.  So what does it take?  How does one co-create a satisfying, successful marriage and/or long term partnership?

The factors that create and sustain a successful relationship can sometimes seem elusive.  Particularly in the environment in which we find ourselves today… We are inundated with news of divorce, infidelity, cyber cheating, emotional affairs and so on. The topic of longevity and lasting contentment in relationships is on the rise, especially in the wake of the recent activity of Representative Weiner and Arnold Schwarzenegger.  So what does it take?  How does one co-create a satisfying, successful marriage and/or long term partnership?

One thing is for sure…there is not ONE answer.  But there are a collection of answers.  Ways of being, reflecting, and communicating that can enhance the possibility of forever.  This article will focus on the idea of self exploration within the context of a marriage or partnership.  So often, we are looking at our partner to assess and determine what is wrong with the relationship and how it can be improved.  But sometimes, even oftentimes, what is needed is for us to look deeply inside ourselves.  Relationships offer a number of opportunities.  One of them (like it or not) is to have a mirror held up to you by your partner.  How do you come off?  How do you argue?  Show affection?  Communicate?  Resolve conflict?  And sometimes we are very resistant to that information.  We are so busy defending why our partner is wrong, how their perception of us is totally inaccurate, that we may miss an opportunity…the opportunity to understand some unconscious dynamics within ourselves that may require our attention.  That may not even be connected to our partner.

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