In my psychology practice, I see many couples in long term relationships struggling with feeling unfulfilled, loss of sexual energy and loving their partner, but feeling stuck. My advice?
Try the 7-Year Marriage Contract.
Based on the 7-year itch, the 7-year Marriage Contract is a way to make marriage work. With people living longer, “till death due us part,” is antiquated and unrealistic. In all honesty, what’s the likelihood you will still be with the same partner after 20 years?
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Getting to know someone, takes a very long time, and after seven years, you have a pretty good idea of who your partner is. Still, couples together for more than a decade often share with me how they are still discovering new things about their partners and how surprising that is. The 7-year Marriage Contract is a way to not feel stuck, not take each other for granted and forces you to reevaluate your relationship.
Different than a prenuptial agreement, a marriage contract is an agreement providing a custom-made set of rules and regulations on a variety of marriage concerns. The contract can include anything from the day-to-day management of the marriage, how to divide property upon separation or guidelines if a partner dies. Cohabitation agreements are essentially the same thing as a marriage contract, but are designed for people who intend to live together -- or who are already living together -- who wish to set out some rules to govern any separation that they may experience..
The Contract gives you an option to renew your commitment after 7 years or not.
The commitment renewal can be done with a professional like myself, a trusted friend or another member of your support network.
In this era of nearly half of marriages ending in divorce, the 7-year Marriage Contract is a tool you can use to help keep your marriage working and give you a framework for your emotional investment.
Hear me describe the concept of a 7-Year Marriage Contract in my YouTube Video.
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