10 Tips To Survive The Holidays

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10 Tips To Survive The Holidays
How to cope when your family's latent dysfunction decides to pop up under the Christmas tree!

8. Ask yourself what you really want. You may be surprised by the answer. You may even decide that what you want is to be with your family, warts and all. Once being with them is a choice instead of a gun-to-your-head obligation, maybe you can relax in their presence.

9. If what you want, and need, is to preserve your self-esteem, and doing so requires separating from toxic family members, give yourself the gift of prioritizing your self-preservation. Leave. When guilt rears its ugly head, try to replace that corrosive emotion with compassion for yourself.

10. Take responsibility for your own happiness. This is what the three ghosts taught Scrooge. No one was going to save him, not Marley, not his sister or his sweet fiancée, not even Tiny Tim. He had to do it himself. You can too!

How are you surviving the holidays? Please leave a comment and let me know.

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Dr Aletta is a clinical psychologist, founder of Explore What’s Next, wife, and mom. Dr. Aletta is a writer whose articles have been featured on the New York Times Well blog, the Wall Street Journal Online, Parents magazine. She's been interviewed on  National Public Radio and the BBC London Radio. To learn more about Dr. Aletta visit Explore What's Next, check out the EWN Facebook page and follow her on Twitter!

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