Lasting Love Is All About Connection


Lasting Love Is All About Connection
Empty Nest Couple wondering if there is enough left in their marriage after the kids are gone.

I want to encourage you to not give up too soon.  The inner workings of romantic love and friendship have always been a bit of a mystery; but as of late, we have much more understanding about what makes relationships work.  The latest research offers us a clear scientific view of love and how to make it last.  We are taught that healthy adults are self-sufficient.  Only messed up people depend on others. The research on creating lasting love tells us that romantic love is all about attachment and emotional bonding.  We all need someone who can offer reliable emotional connection and comfort.    Couples often get stuck in negative cycles that they don’t understand and can’t seem to change; this can make it hard to listen to each other, support one another, or have fun together.  But once you figure out what the negative patterns are, you can uncover the key negative and positive emotional moments that define your relationship.

It seems worth the effort to try and rekindle your friendship with each other. Getting to know each other again and learning what you both need from each other and from your relationship is a good place to start. This could be an ideal time in your lives together to create a new dance defined by your own rhythms apart from the children.   


Recommended reading, “Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for A Lifetime of Love” by Sue Johnson.

Sign up for the: Keeping Love Alive: A Couples Workshop at The Cottage Clinic in Rancho Santa Fe, California, August 18, 19, 20, 2011.  CEU’s available for some health professionals.  Based on the book, “Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love” by Sue Johnson and Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. 

Register at or (858) 259-0146

Diana Weiss-Wisdom, Ph.D. is a Licensed Psychologist psy#12476 in private practice in Rancho Santa Fe, California..  She specializes in relationships, couples and marriage counseling, premarital counseling, and stepfamilies. (858) 259-0146




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Diana Weiss-Wisdom


My approach is tailored to your specific needs and situation.  I use a combination of emotionally focused therapy, cognitive-behavioral therapy,  positive psychology, and psychological assessment tools.

My focus is on how to help individuals, couples, as well as parents and their children bring out the best in themselves and each other.


Individuals, Couples, and Families are assessed and treated with kindness, respect, and warm professionalism in our office.  My specialty areas include:

    Marriage counseling
    Premarital counseling
    Intimacy issues
    Life Transitions
    Divorce recovery
    Cardiac psychology

Location: Rancho Santa Fe, CA
Credentials: PhD
Specialties: Couples/Marital Issues, Divorce/Divorce Prevention, Stepfamilies
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