Lasting Love Is All About Connection

By Diana Weiss-Wisdom. Posted on Jun 6th 2011.

Empty Nest Couple wondering if there is enough left in their marriage after the kids are gone.

My husband doesn’t understand my feelings at all. I’m beginning to wonder if he ever did. Our youngest son just graduated from high school and leaves for college in a couple of months. With the kids gone, I don’t know if we have anything in common anymore. We still love each other but we are not friends anymore. How do people know if there is enough left in a relationship to fight for it? And when to let it go? Over the years, we’ve tried couples therapy several times…trying to keep it together for the kids. I’m afraid that now that the kids are gone, our marriage is just going to fall apart.

- Lonely Wife

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Dear Lonely Wife,

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It’s not unusual for couples to have these kinds of concerns when their children grow up and leave home. For so many years, the focus and the glue has been on the kids; couples may need to revitalize their friendship as well as rediscovering themselves. It’s also natural to feel a bit of a void once the kids are gone and most of us look first to our partner to satisfy our craving for a deeper and more meaningful relationship.

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My approach is tailored to your specific needs and situation. I use a combination of emotionally focused therapy, cognitive-behavioral therapy, positive psychology, and psychological assessment tools.

My focus is on how to help individuals, couples, as well as parents and their children bring out the best in themselves and each other.

Individuals, Couples, and Families are assessed and treated with kindness, respect, and warm professionalism in our office. My specialty areas include:

     Relationships
    Marriage counseling
    Stepfamilies
    Stepparenting
    Premarital counseling
    Intimacy issues
    Life Transitions
    Divorce recovery
    Cardiac psychology

Location: Rancho Santa Fe, CA

Credentials: PhD

Specialties: Couples/Marital Issues, Divorce/Divorce Prevention, Stepfamilies

Website: http://www.drdianaweiss-wisdom.com

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