50 Things You Should Try For Hotter Sex

You are where you need to be


You are where you need to be
This is a short meditation on staying in the present and accepting who you are.

You are perfect the way you are.

You are exactly where you need to be at this moment.

More from YourTango: 10 Stages: How Love Transforms Over Time

If you change tomorrow, then tomorrow you will also be where you need to be.

You can only be who you are and where you are as a result of all of your ancestry and all of evolution, because no single event can be taken out of the context of the whole.

Change will happen when you are ready, and not because you feel it should happen, or because you feel changing something will fix things.

Never compare yourself with others.

It is only the mind that creates confusion, conflict and insecurity. You are not your mind.

Genuine acceptance is the path to inner peace.

You do not have to be, nor should you be, anyone or anyplace other than who and where you are right now.

If you want to change something, let it come from a place of challenging yourself and learning and growing and not because you want to fix yourself or make yourself more acceptable to yourself and to others. The former path leads to abundance and the latter to endless suffering.

If any or all of this resonates with you, change the ‘you’ to ‘I’ and say it out loud to yourself every day.

Try saying it while looking at yourself in the mirror.

Say it even if you don’t fully believe it.

You are your own biggest critic. You alone construct monuments to shame and insecurities. And you alone have the power to destroy them.

More from YourTango: The danger of making assumptions in relationships

By David B. Younger, Ph.D, CGP, P.C.

- See more at: http://www.dbyounger.com/blog/#sthash.Y1suCEHD.dpuf

Share this with someone you love (or even like a lot)!

Let's make it
FB official
Article contributed by
Advanced Member

Dr. David Younger


David B. Younger, Ph.D, CGP, P.C.
1225 Park Avenue, Suite 1S
New York, NY 10128

Location: New York, NY
Credentials: CGP, MA, MS, PhD
Other Articles/News by Dr. David Younger:

10 Stages: How Love Transforms Over Time


A lifelong relationship can be distilled down into 10 stages. Unfortunately many relationships do not make it past the fifth or sixth stage, but the universal factor necessary to reach "the end" is communication. Without it, there's no chance of sustaining a dynamic and fruitful partnership. Without it, relationships turn stale and resentment ... Read more

The danger of making assumptions in relationships


One of the most common problems that I see when working with couples is the game of assumptions. This is when people infer based on previous behavior what the other is thinking and feeling. No space is left for something new. The assumer feels defensive and self-protective and the “assumee” feels shut out and not seen. The more rooted a couple ... Read more

Why I meditate


I have been interested in meditation for years, but it was only until fairly recently that I completed a Vedic meditation training here in NYC and committed to a regular practice. In the Vedic tradition, a mantra is used to anchor the meditation. One of the biggest benefits of meditation, as far as I am concerned, is that it is a consciousness and practice ... Read more

See More

Recent Expert Posts
Make A Move

Forgiveness : The Most Important "F-Word".

Forgive so that the past no longer holds you back. It is time to move forward.

Trouble In Paradise

5 Signs Your Marriage is At Risk

Learn the warning signs for divorce so you can avoid a crisis and find ways to turn things around.

woman sending naked pic

Before You Hit Send: The Cold, Hard Truth About Sending Nude Pics

Ever thought about sharing nude photos or sexting with a new guy? Read on to know what to watch for.

Ask The Experts

Have a dating or relationship question?
Visit Ask YourTango and let our experts and community answer.

How to find the right pro for you
10 Reasons Mental Health Pros Should Join YourTango Experts

10 Reasons Mental Health Pros Should Join YourTango Experts

YourTango Experts can help your business go from good to great.

10 Steps To Improve Your Coaching Business

Take your coaching business from mediocre to great in no timeā€¦

Frequently Asked Questions About YourTango Experts

Thinking of joining? Here's all the facts you need to know to make the most of your membership.

Getting Your Guy To Join You In A Therapy Or Coaching Session

So how can your get your strong, self-reliant, superman to talk to an Expert with you?

Therapist/Counselors: Who We Are & What We Do

What exactly does a therapist/counselor do and can they really help?

See more resources>