A breakup due to the heat of the moment includes breakups because of plain old bad timing. Maybe you had a bad day at work and he's been having trouble paying the bills. Your tempers flared, and at the worst possible moment, your pride followed and you ended up breaking up with him. In either event, once you remember why you truly broke up in the first place, you have to answer another question regarding it. 4 Reasons Why Sex With An Ex Is A Bad Idea
3. Has anything relevant changed since then? This is the clincher. Something should have changed since then for you to even consider getting back together with him or her. This question only matters if you parted due to irreconcilable differences. Whatever reason it was that made you break up, isn't just something that happened. It is something that caused your relationship to end, something that mattered enough for you and him to call it quits.
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This is not an easy question to answer and will definitely require you to reconnect on some level with your ex-partner. Obviously, this might not be easy, even if you are on amiable terms. You need to find out if he is a different person than he was before. If a new relationship won't just end the same way as before. If he still doesn't want kids, it's off. If he's still the same jerk as he was before, it's off. Advice For Relationship Mistakes
Now, if you broke up because of a mistake made in the heat of the moment, it is a matter of finding out if he or she is the same person. People make mistakes and if a breakup happened because of a mistake, perhaps that breakup was an error in itself. Reading this by no means simplifies the entire process. It will be emotional and likely extremely difficult. However, a good relationship isn't just something you can pick up. If he or she is worth it and you both want it, giving it another run might not be such a bad idea.
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