Good things come in threes. With the three foundational requirements in mind, here are three simple steps to help you determine whether or not you should hold out hope of reconciling with your ex:
Step 1. Define what long-term means to you. Do you want to get back with your ex for another year? Or do you want to have a life-long relationship resulting in marriage? Do you want to have children with your ex?
Most people want a long-term relationship and define long-term as life-long. It is important to be clear about this question before we discuss dealbreakers.
Step 2: Identify whether or not the three, core foundational requirements are dealbreakers or not. A dealbreaker means you must walk away from the relationship if your requirement is not completely present.
Step 3: Review the entire time you were in the relationship with your ex. Were you mostly happy, fulfilled and harmonious? Or were you stressed, worried, anxious, frustrated or worse most of the time?
Feeling good and positive overall will help you make the best choice for yourself and your future. These steps will help you figure out whether you feel good overall or not before you make a decision that will impact you for the rest of your life.