4 Dating Pitfalls Of Intelligent Women


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Got brains?
Is your intellect an asset or a liability?

Savvy IBs do the opposite — make their date feel special. It's okay to use the correct term when you ask him if he's still feeling nauseated, but avoid correcting. Once you correct someone, you cease being their date and become their teacher or parent. Game over.

4. Trying to be right. Another temptation when you're an IB is the desire to be right. Smart people often feel they've earned their knowledge through diligent hard work, and it's annoying to have someone — especially someone who doesn't know as much — tout a misinformed opinion. What can start as a fun intellectual debate can turn into an irritating argument.

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Here's the deal: People who think they're right aren't always right. Even if you are, trying to convince someone else you're right is a total waste of time and only makes them more resistant. Instead, make your point, but respectfully let them have their opinion. Believe me, if you do, they may still be around to eventually realize you're right (if you actually are!).

Remember, your intellect is one of your most powerful assets. Don't let it become a liability. The smarter you are, the more you need to make dates feel comfortable in your presence.

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