Online Dating? 4 Steps To Crafting A Great Email

By Dr. Christie Hartman. Posted on Nov 9th 2012.

Want to email that cute guy, but don’t know what to say? Read on!

3. Request to chat. When dating online, men don't know always know how to read women. Make it easier for him by including a casual, low-pressure statement that shows you'd like to hear from him.

4. The closing. Always conclude the email with your name, handle or some other sign-off. Again, manners make you stand out.

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When you decide to email a man, keep the email brief and don't overthink it. Here's an example:

Hey IronMan95,

I enjoyed reading your profile. It's pretty impressive that you've done two Ironman triathlons — which ones have you done? I'm a runner and have ran a few marathons … Anyway, let me know if you'e interested in talking more. Have a good one!

MarathonGirl

This email is polite, short and to the point but still casual and light. She attempts to connect with him based on their mutual enjoyment of endurance sports, while also squeezing in a compliment, a question that can generate more conversation and a request to chat. You'll also notice there is no flirting and no chasing. She's simply starting a conversation that may turn into him asking her out.

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