3. Take an interest in his nerdy stuff. While it's totally fine if you don't engage in his nerdy hobbies, it never hurts to occasionally take an interest. Ask him why he loves his favorite sci-fi books or movies. Try playing his World of Warcraft game. Pay attention when nerd-dom hits national news — for example, just this week Disney announced that it purchased the entire Star Wars franchise (for a sum numbering in the billions) and will release more Star Wars movies. Likewise, he should do the same for you.
4. Find common ground. You may have different interests, but one way to spend quality time with your nerdy guy is to watch sci-fi movies or TV shows that also appeal to female non-Nerds. Here are some of my favorites:
- Game of Thrones. Immensely popular, Game of Thrones chronicles seven noble families fighting for control of a mythical land. With its backbiting, battles, and sexual intrigue, this show is about as addictive as they come. On HBO (season 1 is on Netflix).
- Hunger Games. Based on a trilogy of books, the first Hunger Games movie was a big success and they're in the process of making the second. Set in the future, a totalitarian leader selects a boy and girl from each of 12 districts and forces them to fight to the death, until only one stands. This is a gripping, well-acted movie with a very strong female main character.
- Star Wars, the original trilogy. On a cold or snowy day, pop some popcorn (or grab some beers) and watch the old trilogy. Yeah, it's a bit cheesy, but there's a reason this franchise was so amazingly popular: it has memorable characters (including a strong woman), lots of good humor, and a cosmic theme that appeals to everyone.
- Battlestar Galactica. I have gotten non-nerd friends (male and female) hooked on BSG. It has none of the cheesiness of Star Trek and everything it lacked: sex, violence, drama, very strong women, and seriously hot guys. You can find all the episodes on Netflix.