Parenting time. The more parenting time a divorced dad has, the more his children will influence your relationship. There’s a difference between a divorced dad who has full custody because Mom has drug problems and a divorced dad who only has his child during the summer. The former will have a lot more to deal with, and so will you.
The Ex. Unless the divorced dad is a widow, all children come with a mom. Hopefully, the single dad’s ex will be a reasonably nice person and he will have a good relationship with her. If the ex is difficult, this will cause problems down the road. The divorced dad doesn’t have to get along with his ex all the time, but if their relationship is rocky or she is a mean or difficult person, this can create strain on your relationship.
Another important issue is you: are you cut out for dating a single dad? A man with kids has a lifetime obligation to those kids, and they will require his love, attention, and money. If you find you don’t like to share, or you just don’t like kids, that’s fine – it’s better to know this and avoid dating men with children, rather than put yourself in a situation that isn’t fair to you, him, or the kids.
Dating a divorced dad does have its challenges, but it can also be fulfilling. Every divorced dad’s situation is different; the key is to find the right situation for you. As you get to know him, take it slow, get to know him and his children, and be on the lookout for any red flags.