How To Kill Communication In A Marriage

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How To Kill Communication In A Marriage
NEVER say these 5 things to your spouse.

2. Am I just mad and need to wait before I speak?  When you are mad is not a good time to judge whether a statement will have long-lasting negative impact.  Just be silent for a moment to determine if you are acting reasonably or if you are too mad to judge the damage you will invoke by your statement.

3. Is it worth it? There is so much long-term damage that can be caused by negative or hurtful comments that it really has to be a critically important issue to take that type of risk.

 

4. Could I say it a different way?  Many times a negative or hurtful statement can be said in a positive manner.  Often with a bit of time to reflect it will become apparent that there really was no need to make the statement at all.

All too often people forget that one negative or hurtful statement can undo an entire day’s positive actions and words, damaging the very core of the relationship.  So, be mindful to choose words that will enhance your relationship each and every day.

By Drs. Charles and Elizabeth Schmitz
America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts

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Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth Schmitz
America's #1 Love and Marriage Experts
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Location: New York, NY
Credentials: EdD, PhD
Specialties: Couples/Marital Issues, Divorce/Divorce Prevention, Infidelity / Affair Recovery, Marriage, Nutrition, Wellness
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