Is Your Man Someone You Can Trust?

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Is Your Man Someone You Can Trust?
What do you really know about this guy?

A psychologist friend of ours reminds us from time to time about the "pervasive characteristics" present in human beings. These are "reccurring patterns of thought and behavior" that defines a person, that tells us who they are. And recurring patterns of thought and behavior for the most part do not change when a person is an adult. In reality, these pervasive characteristics define who you are. Oh, sure, some people can cover up their real personality characteristics from time to time, but if you observe them long enough you will learn who they really are.

When someone you are observing over time repeatedly and consistently demonstrates through their actions and deeds the pervasive characteristics present in them, you must pay attention! If a man is truly a good person you can trust you will see it in their actions. Don't be fooled by words that are contrary to their actions. Be honest with yourself and resolve to see what is really there.

When you fall in love, make it for all the right reasons. Don't ignore the signs. Don't ignore the glitches. Pay attention, and your reward will more often than not be true love with a man you can trust. Ignore his actions and you do so at your own peril.

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By Drs. Charles and Elizabeth Schmitz
America's #1 Love and Marriage Experts

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Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth Schmitz
America's #1 Love and Marriage Experts
**For marriage advice and hundreds of practical tips, read the Doctors' best-selling and multiple-award winning book Building a Love that Lasts. Available wherever books are sold.  Learn How to Marry the Right Guy when you read the Doctors' latest book--2014 Mom's Choice Awards Gold Medal for Best Relationship Book. Learn more about America's #1 Love and Marriage Experts.

Location: New York, NY
Credentials: EdD, PhD
Specialties: Couples/Marital Issues, Divorce/Divorce Prevention, Infidelity / Affair Recovery, Marriage, Nutrition, Wellness
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