A psychologist friend of ours reminds us from time to time about the "pervasive characteristics" present in human beings. These are "reccurring patterns of thought and behavior" that defines a person, that tells us who they are. And recurring patterns of thought and behavior for the most part do not change when a person is an adult. In reality, these pervasive characteristics define who you are. Oh, sure, some people can cover up their real personality characteristics from time to time, but if you observe them long enough you will learn who they really are.
When someone you are observing over time repeatedly and consistently demonstrates through their actions and deeds the pervasive characteristics present in them, you must pay attention! If a man is truly a good person you can trust you will see it in their actions. Don't be fooled by words that are contrary to their actions. Be honest with yourself and resolve to see what is really there.
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When you fall in love, make it for all the right reasons. Don't ignore the signs. Don't ignore the glitches. Pay attention, and your reward will more often than not be true love with a man you can trust. Ignore his actions and you do so at your own peril.
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