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Marriage Advice: Make Your Best Friend Your Spouse
Friends or lovers? Both!
The most successful marriages are those in which spouses are also best friends.

Make no mistake about it: Loving someone is not enough. If your partner is not your best friend, your relationship will not pass the test of time. Your relationship can never be judged as a great success. There is no equivocation when it comes to this point. Best friends provide each other with total trust, loyalty, mutual respect, admiration, encouragement, support, care and much more. 

If the one you love is not your best friend, your relationship might be in serious trouble and, in all likelihood, will not become one of the lifelong love stories we have heard around the world on. 

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So, with that in mind, we will ask you what we have asked every couple we have interviewed across the continents: is the one you purport to love really your best friend? If not, you need to focus on building the friendship elements of your relationship — or consider finding another partner if you want your love to last for a lifetime.

Love well! And more importantly, like well!

Creating a successful marriage is not always the easiest thing to do. Your reading our article suggests you are highly interested in making your marriage work! And truthfully, we have learned over 30 years of marriage research that there are proven, effective ways to ensure a happy and healthy marriage. In fact, we took hundreds of tips from the thousands of happy couples we interviewed throughout the world and put them into our award-winning and bestselling book, Building a Love that Lasts.

Today, you can see how you stack up to the best marriages around the world. Take the Marriage Quiz to assess your chances of achieving a successful marriage of your own.

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America's #1 Love and Marriage Experts
**For marriage advice and hundreds of practical tips, read the Doctors' best-selling and multiple-award winning book Building a Love that Lasts. Available wherever books are sold.  Learn How to Marry the Right Guy when you read the Doctors' latest book--2014 Mom's Choice Awards Gold Medal for Best Relationship Book. Learn more about America's #1 Love and Marriage Experts.

Location: New York, NY
Credentials: EdD, PhD
Specialties: Couples/Marital Issues, Divorce/Divorce Prevention, Infidelity / Affair Recovery, Marriage, Nutrition, Wellness
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