We had a wonderful interview this past week in Southern California with a couple who had a marriage based on a 17-year, cross-continent NON-relationship! And what a wonderful story it was. Why 17 years you ask? What is this NON-relationship all about?
Here is the bottom line. Steve went to high school with Sherrie. Their high school was in the state of Maryland. They dated steadily during their sophomore and junior years.
To be sure, it was a very loving relationship. Then something strange happened—Steve and his family moved to Southern California without warning due to a job change for his mother. Sherrie was left behind. Steve was devastated. The love of his life was gone from his life.
Now, fast forward 15 years. Steve lives in California. Sherrie lives in Maryland. They had no contact over the past 15 years.
Steve recently decided to return to his native Maryland to visit family and friends. During his visit he was walking down a street in his old neighborhood, and to his immense surprise, he ran into Sherrie, his love of long ago.
Steve felt giddy. He felt emotional. All the old feelings for Sherrie returned in an instant. In Maryland, he had loved her so deeply. Now, here she was again, in plain view after 15 years.
He tingled! He shivered! Steve felt all the love on this day that he had felt for her 15 years ago. It was love again at first sight with the women he had loved so deeply so many years ago. He was ecstatic!
Steve hugged Sherrie. Told her he loved her. He shared with her the horrible anguish he felt when his parents up and moved away 15 years ago. He told Sherrie he loved her more than life itself.
Steve and Sherrie were married after two months! Love can be very kind sometimes! The marriage of Steve and Sherrie turns out to be one for the ages!
So, what did we, as love and marriage experts, learn by interviewing Steve and Sherrie? The answer is a simple one. Sometimes falling in love is about falling in love again!
People who fall in love all over again report to us the following:
1. When they entered the same physical space again, they felt tingling all over. They "felt love" when in the presence of this person in their life again. They asked themselves this question, "Is this what real love feels like?" Love is a feeling that transcends a physical presence.
2. Falling in love again is highly "emotional." You smile when you think of the one you have just seen again. These couples report that they know someone better in three days of renewal than they have ever known someone else in a lifetime.
3. Falling in love at first again causes you to want to say, "I love you," to the person you have just met again. Having the desire to express love for another person usually takes time. Wanting to express love in the beginning of a renewed relationship is a sure sign that you are falling in love "all over again."
4. Couples that re-connect reported that their relationship seems almost too easy. There are none of the worries, uncertainties and fears associated with their previous relationships. Their "old" love trumps everything!