12 Financial Signs You're Engaged To A Loser

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Are you about to marry a financial loser?
He doesn't have clear financial goals ... so should you really consider him as a lifelong partner?

6. He tends to be tight-lipped about his financial situation. In successful marriages, partners talk about anything and everything. There are no secrets. If he doesn't want to talk about his financial situation or life goals—that's a red flag.

7. Since you started dating, he has asked to borrow money from you ... repeatedly. While this isn't in and of itself all that much of a problem, it's another warning sign that should alert you to dig further into his financial philosophy. A man who wants to make a good impression is rarely going to borrow money from the woman he's trying to impress.

 

8. You've noticed bills laying on his desk or kitchen table marked "overdue" or "past due." This is an indication of a serious problem. Credit ratings are easily available with much emphasis on paying bills on time. Neglecting to pay his bills indicates a lack of concern for a good credit rating or financial credibility.

9. He stills lives in his mother's house. While there may be good reasons for this arrangement, it does bring up a cause for concern. Is he there to help out his mother? Is he there because it's easier to live there than go out and earn a real income? Is he there while he's saving money to buy his own house? It's important to understand his reasons (and there should be some).

10. If he's in a financial rut, he lacks ambition to get out of it. Without ambition, the two of you are going to have a hard time making your marriage work.

11. He has been in college or a training program for a disproportionately large amount of time. You're beginning to wonder if he'll ever graduate. While it's commendable to gain additional education or training, eventually, you have to graduate and find a job.

12. You often end up paying when you two go out to dinner, a movie, a concert or a sporting event. While in today's culture it's appropriate for the woman to occasionally pay the bill on a date, you shouldn't make it a habit. If the guy you're in love with often asks you to pay the bill, it's a red flag. You need to do your homework and investigate further into his financial plans, philosophy, and practices.

The last thing you want to do is marry a deadbeat—a man who doesn't have a financial plan, good financial practices or a financial philosophy that matches yours. If you go ahead and marry him when you don't agree on finances, you will end up with money problems and endless arguments.

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Dr. Charles & Dr. Elizabeth Schmitz

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